Pastors Corner: Tough Love?

We Americans of the 21st century use the word “love” in funny ways.

Pastor Seth Springer

For instance, we will say things like, “I love my dog, I love my car, or I love ice cream!” (Which I do). Hopefully, those who are married would say, “I love my spouse.” In context, we all understand what the other person is saying. However, out of context, hopefully, no one loves their car, dog, or ice cream like they love their spouse.

So many times in our day, though, people  throw the word “love” around like a volleyball, especially the biblical use of the word. Somehow, the meaning of the word has become mostly associated with feelings.

Love is not a feeling. It involves feelings. It involves emotion. But it is not limited to these mentioned. Love is most assuredly an action! John 3:16 states, “For God so ‘loved’ the world, that he ‘gave’ his only begotten son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish but have everlasting life.” God’s love for humanity was not revealed in word only but in action! If you love someone or something, you spend time, energy, and your resources on that object of your love. Love is a practical thing, not some kind of tingly feeling!

Love also has a tough side to it. Most of the readers have probably heard of “tough love.” Tough love usually entails somebody telling you the truth even when it hurts. Tough love is not always allowing your children to do whatever they want to do. (Like not allowing them to run in front of a moving car) Tough love is telling someone God doesn’t want you to live in sin and that He’s got a better plan for your life. In short, “love” doesn’t always mean acceptance. Tough love doesn’t always feel the best but it usually has the individuals best interest in mind.

Let’s remember, when faced with the truth of Gods word, the Apostle Paul’s words in  Galatians 4:16 (KJV) “Am I therefore become your enemy, because I tell you the truth?” Because tough love doesn’t sound or feel good to us, that doesn’t mean it isn’t love. If you’re ever reading your bible and you are challenged by God’s word, just remember, “yes, ” God loves you, and he wants the best for you!